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27 July 2012 @ 11:15 am
Advice to my Younger Self  
I think it would be so very helpful to be able to communicate to my younger self - so that I could avoid some of the mistakes and experiences in life that were not, shall we say, the more pleasant ones. I realize that all things have led me to be the person I am, but I wonder if I'd known and believed some of these things, how my life would have changed? Would I have even listened? So I've made a list for my younger self. Without further ado, here is:

Advice to my Teenaged to Twenty Year-Old Self

1. Don't take yourself so seriously. It's okay to be silly. Goofy. Whimsical. Don't wait until you're nearly forty to let these qualities come out. And if you think everyone is looking at you, you're wrong. People are concerned with themselves, not you.

2. You're beautiful. Don't worry about what people think of your style, the way you dress, how you look. You're the thinnest you've ever been in your whole life. A size 6 is in no way chubby. Love it. Own it. Also, confidence is beautiful. Remember that.

3. You are not always right. It is not always necessary for you to be right, and if you'll listen to what other people have to say, you might learn a little something. Many of the smartest people are the best listeners.

4. Do not date people the same height that you are. (This one is specific to me - I'm sure that there are men that are 5'2" out there that aren't selfish, narcissistic prigs - But everyone else should be careful, nonetheless.)

5. When someone says it will be fun to do shots of tequila, DO NOT BELIEVE THEM. You'll thank me later on in life, that when someone offers you a frozen margarita, it wont engage your automatic gag reflex. And drunk and sloppy isn't cute. Ever.

6. Saving yourself for marriage is not an outdated, antiquated concept.

7. Don't be afraid to be friendly. Don't be afraid to let people in, past the carefully constructed walls you've created around yourself. Guarding your heart is important, but not to the point of isolation.

8. Your mother is actually smart, having lived longer and having had more life experiences than you have, and she may have some sage advice to offer. Don't wait until you're older to count her as a friend.

9. Be open to new experiences. Go out and live life. Travel. Do things. Go places. High school is not real life. You'll find out who you are and what you're about later on.

10. Be true to yourself. You're the one that knows yourself the best, so don't sell yourself out. Don't do things that make you miserable. Learn how to say, "No."

11. Audition. For everything. What's the worst that could happen? You won't get it? Listen sister, you won't get it sitting on your butt on the sofa, either.

12. Boys aren't the end-all, be-all. It isn't necessary to have a boyfriend at all times. Being single is not the worst thing to happen in the world. And know that boys are sometimes clueless. They aren't intentionally hurting your feelings, they're just boys. They're wired differently than you are.

And here's a bonus, straight from the mouth of my Daddy, "Don't sweat the small stuff, babe. And it's all small stuff." Listen to him. He's pretty smart.

What advice would you give your younger self? I'm all a-quiver with anticipatory giddiness to hear!
I feel:: calmcalm
I hear:: AJ's cartoons
(Anonymous) on July 27th, 2012 04:38 pm (UTC)
Great advice!
All I can say is that I'm 6'1"! Whew!! So I didn't fall into that category. Being a silly boy who was wired differently....guilty. You are wise Carrie Leigh, always have been. I am so glad you have such an awesome husband and life. You deserve it. :)
Adelagiaadelagia on July 27th, 2012 05:08 pm (UTC)
Ooh I love this list. I need to print it out and tape it up somewhere... :)

I'd tell my younger self: Listen to your mother. Maddeningly, she's going to turn out to be right almost every time.
(Anonymous) on July 27th, 2012 05:59 pm (UTC)
I have heard your daddy say that many, many times and he is correct. I always tell my girls that I am in no way smarter than them but I have lived longer and know a few things. I wasted most of my young life by being shy and confused. However, I like where I am right now. It's good!!! You didn't do so bad either. I like you.... a lot!!! I actually love you. Something Kathy used to say and I have always kept it near. "Anybody can be a butt hole, it really doesn't take someone special at all."
Elle: gandyelvishly on July 29th, 2012 12:50 pm (UTC)
♥ this list.