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08 June 2011 @ 10:58 pm
Twenty Year High School Reunion  
For me, the title of this post may as well be another phrase for "Weekend Involving Self-Torture and Mental Anguish."

Alright, maybe that's a little dramatic. It is an occupational hazard, after all.

So let me back up. Sometime last week, the date was announced for my twenty year reunion. Ever since then, my former classmates have been replying with "Can't wait!" and "So excited!"

My knee jerk response is somewhere along the lines of, "Cautiously Anxious!" and "Fearfully Apprehensive!" with the occasional, "Oh, HELL, no!" My ten year reunion was patentedly NOT fun. Though my being eight weeks pregnant and wanting to throw up every two seconds might have put a damper on the festivities, somewhat. But twenty? How could it be more fun? (Except for the being pregnant part. That won't be an issue. Any nausea I feel will be from crappy early nineties pseudo-music.)

Come on, folks. I cannot be the only one who feels this way.

For one thing, chances are that if I'm not already in touch with you somehow, it's by choice. I mean, what will I have to talk to these people about past, "Hey, you were an asshole in high school. You still working that?"

For that matter, I had some rather unfortunate qualities in high school. I like to think that I've outgrown most of them, but I know that at least a few people hated my guts and livers. I'm not sure why exactly, that is to say, I can't pinpoint any one thing I did to any one person, but the hatred of my person came out in the form of vandalism to my poor car. Granted, my car was a 1986 Chevy Cavalier POS - not the end all be all of automobiles, but he (his name was Bud) certainly didn't deserve to be egged repeatedly, have beer bottles (or wine bottles?) thrown at him, or my favorite and the Pièce de résistance, having a gallon of yellow latex paint poured over his roof.

To this day, I don't know who did that. And I've forgiven them. Mostly. But I don't really want to be around that person, either.

Yet, they're probably not an asshole, anymore.


You know, who am I kidding? They probably totally are.

All that said, there are a handful (or more, if I'm being optimistic) of people that I actually liked in high school, and that most likely get along with now that we're adults. I've reconnected with a few of them on facebook. I've also reconnected with people that I absolutely DO NOT remember. I'm not kidding. Their names, their pictures... NOTHING rings a bell. If I actually cared enough, I'd go dig out my annuals and look them up, but I'm satisfied with the non-existent relationship we have. If I knew who they were, I might not like them anymore, and their pithy facebook posts amuse me. So they stay.

My husband, because he treats life like a party, had a GREAT time at his 20 year reunion. He's that guy. I wish I were that girl. Unfortunately, I'm the girl that enjoys standing on the fringe of the party and making snarky or quasi-inappropriate comments. Now that I stand back and consider it, I can definitely think of some folks who would feel comfortable joining me on the edge. Line forms behind me. No shoving.

Or maybe... maybe I'll have a great time. Maybe the yellow paint asshole won't show up. Maybe I'll stand on the fringe and do my thing. Either way, I'm going. It's a compulsion. I have to. I have to see. I have to see what twenty years has done to Nimitz High School's class of 1991.

Self-torture and mental anguish has always been kind of my thing, anyway.
I am:: bed
I feel:: cheerfulcheerful
I hear:: Dirty Harry
Jessica K Malfoy: nature: neon benchjessicakmalfoy on June 9th, 2011 04:09 am (UTC)
to be honestly, high school reunions seem kinda pointless now that we all have facebook. i'm sure they were just invented to torture people. i didn't go to my 10 year because i was graduating from college on the same day. i have no desire to go to my 20 year either. why bother? all 68 people are on my FB. okay, not really, but it feels like it.
Sister Roserose_in_texas on June 9th, 2011 04:16 am (UTC)
I did not go to my 20-year reunion. I've lived a full and interesting life without those people and do not need their approbation.

On the other hand, the temptation to go and see what they're up to is ... tempting.

If only there were some way to go and watch those people without having to interact with them....
Jandy the Gnome Whisperer: Beatles - oooooh!jandjsalmon on June 9th, 2011 05:05 am (UTC)
My super-lame sister in law decided to get married two weeks AFTER my 10 year so I got to choose to go to the wedding or the reunion and the wedding won (by a TINY margin) - so I was DEPRESSED to miss mine. I am SUPER excited to get to go to my 20th some day.... but then I'm a bit like Nolan I think.

I hope you have a good time, Carrie. And I really hope that the asshat who put paint on your car isn't there... or grew up to have warts on his face or something.
Lauradream_mancer on June 9th, 2011 05:23 am (UTC)
My class was the last graduating class of our school before it merged with another one that 98% of my class jumped ship from when the new school was started. My class was also voted the "I don't give a shit" class by the other grades (it wasn't called that around teachers--we WERE a private school after all, but we all knew it was that).

We voted never to have a reunion. The vote was unanimous. I hang around with people I've known since I was five and I really don't care to hang out with anyone else. Sometimes my group of friends runs into another group of people from my class. We will make eye contact, do the nod of "I see you", and then continue on. No awkward "Oh hi, how are you?" or "What are you doing with YOUR life now?". And really, I'm so glad we decided to do that.
dragonsangel68: Button - I'm smiling that should scare ydragonsangel68 on June 9th, 2011 05:59 am (UTC)
I hope your reunion is surprisingly fun!

I actually ditched my ten year reunion, mostly because I was eight months pregnant and just didn't feel up to waddling about at a party. Thankfully, no one bothered to organize a twenty year get together :)
slitherhither: ron_sufferslitherhither on June 9th, 2011 06:07 am (UTC)
Unfortunately, I'm the girl that enjoys standing on the fringe of the party and making snarky or quasi-inappropriate comments.

This is so what I did at my 20-yr high school reunion!! That, plus as soon as I walked in — and immediately felt exactly how I did in high school — my highschool BFF and I went straight to the bar and got two glasses of wine. Each.

Though I did end up enjoying myself, seeing a few old friends, and saying "hey!" to the really sweet guy I lost my virginity to. *g* All accompanied by many glasses of wine. Also, on the way in, crossed paths with someone who was already a grandmother. At age 38. OMG!!!

So: go, go and gawk at who's still cute/not cute anymore/much cuter than before. Wear something fabulous, bring pix of kids, drink, maybe dance. Relive a bit of your highschool angst and meet it with a maybe a teensy bit of perspective. Or not.

And, of course, tell us all about it!!!!
April Wesson DriggersApril Wesson Driggers on June 9th, 2011 01:35 pm (UTC)
Here here!!
Girl, it's as if you took the words right out of my brain! I've said for eons (and you can look them up on my blog) that going to another reunion was rather pointless now that we have Facebook and who wants to go back to that place?

I realliy don't think that everyone was THAT happy or truly enjoying themselves THAT much in high school. As I garner now from conversations with folks from all walks of life, everyone was wanting to feel "in" even the ones that were SUPPOSED to already BE "in." A bunch of unhappy lost souls that just wanted to feel like they belonged.

I've said for a long time I wasn't going... but if you go... I want to sit at your table!

I remember the ten. Hated it as well. Same cliques going around and being just as shallow. It was pointless. If I wanted YOU to be a part of MY life... we WOULD be friends...right?

I, too, have accepted friend requests from people I have no idea who they are... names, photos, nothing... nothing rings a bell whatsoever at all! But, they amuse me.

And I don't know who you THINK you were in high school but I loved you to pieces! I've just thought you were the shiz-nitz since we were in Eureka together in elementary school! So, I guess since I'm a "lifer" in the Carrie-band-wagon then I just "get ya" :) right? Heh heh...

So, save me a place at your table, I have zero desire to go....nor do I feel the need to even be there. I'm still not sold on the idea of going since all the other gatherings seem to have the same forty or so people and frankly, since I really don't drink anymore, I may have to slit my wrists to be able to tolerate much of anyone.
Brendan: BSG - Starbuck - Drink Under Tablebrendanm720 on June 9th, 2011 03:17 pm (UTC)
I skipped my 10th. I just didn't feel the need to spend money I didn't have to see people I really didn't care for.

Of course, they split the high school in twain the year I graduated, so they held a joint reunion. So, if you figure 1500-odd people plus "guests"... That's 3000-odd people at the reunion. Not my idea of a good time.

Granted, It'd be nice to see my old friends again (there were like 10) but I'm friends with most of them on FB, so...
Carmenhumbuggirl on June 9th, 2011 03:36 pm (UTC)
Pretend you are Martin Blank.

But don't kill anybody (unless you are handed a complimentary pen and then it's okay).
Adelagia: pixar | seagulls have a freak-outadelagia on June 9th, 2011 03:56 pm (UTC)
Hm, I hear you. I live far away enough from my old hometown that it's understandable why I wouldn't go to the upcoming reunion, and I am happy to have that excuse. I wasn't friends with most of these people then, and I honestly don't care what's going on in their lives, so why bother?

That said, I hope it turns out much more fun that you're expecting and you can replace the memory of your 10 year reunion with a much better one! :)
deedsk_tx on June 9th, 2011 05:01 pm (UTC)
The more important question is.....WHEN YOU COMING TO TOWN?? We'll have our own little reunion!! :)

Hyacinth Girl: Geek Chickeustacia_vye28 on June 10th, 2011 01:09 am (UTC)
Huh. My school never held its 10 year reunion. An honestly, I prolly wouldn't go to any 20 year reunion if they managed to track me down. I had maybe a handful of friends, but most I've drifted away from. It was a graduating class of 566 kids. I didn't know most of them, so I really don't see the point.

Hopefully you enjoy yours! :)
Elle Blessingway: Text: Heels Biggerelle_blessing on June 10th, 2011 02:51 am (UTC)
My ten year reunion is in a few years, though I'm not even sure my school HAS ten year reunions because our classes were so small (there might have been 75 people in my graduating class). I suppose I'll find out in a few years XD

As for HS reunions in general, I tend to think "why not?" It's an entertaining exercise in observation and "oh NO SHE DIDN'T" :D