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ticklethepear asked GOOD questions!
1. How do you manage to find time for yourself with such an active life and family?
Well, friends, quite simply put, I'm selfish. I say 'no' a lot of different activities when asked. I don't do the whole room mother thing and don't feel compelled to volunteer for things I know I won't enjoy. I have the good fortune to get to pick and choose how I fill my days, and I get to spend time doing pretty much exactly what I want to do. I write and paint and sew and cook, and as a happy coincidence, most of the things I do benefit others, as well. I do manage to take two or three bubble baths a week, and that restores the soul.
2. What is your secret for a happy and healthy marriage?
When I posed the question to hubs, Nolan said separate vacations and my first answer was earplugs, which I think are partial answers to the question. :D We don't take things too seriously, and try to make each other laugh daily. We've also been married for nearly twelve years; the first four or five were admittedly terrible and through all the yuck, we learned how to best deal with the others personalities. I let Nolan rant and he reads my silences, and we find middle ground. You find what your spouse needs most, and you BE that. Nolan's biggest thing is that he wants me to be "on his side" no matter what. So unless it's something I feel something so strongly about that I simply can't agree, I do that. Nolan knows I need security and love, and that's what he gives me - cuddles and hugs and "I love yous" and providing for our family. I guess it's not exactly a secret, but it is a lot of work to make marriage good. Anyone who tells you differently is lying.
3. How do you come up with fresh ideas for d/g fic?
I'm not sure that I do. My mentor professor in college once said that every conceivable plot has already been written and that there are no new ideas under the sun. So that really takes the pressure off. :) I enjoy writing, and I enjoy writing with mynuet's Draco. As long as I'm having fun, that's all I care about.
4. Would you become a professional actress?
I actually am a professional actress. I've been paid several times for my talents, and I'm open to more, but location and family prevent me from going to lots of auditions. Maybe one day I'll get to do more; I haven't lost hope. For now I enjoy what I do get to do, and it's enough of a creative outlet to go with all my other responsibilities.
5. What is the best part of being a mom of boys?
Boys are so easy. I adore my boys. They're just uncomplicated. They can have fun with a rock, a hoop and a stick. They don't need a bunch of stuff, it doesn't take them long to get ready to go places, they bounce back from upsets quickly and I, frankly, am enough girl for any household. I guess the best thing is that I get treated differently than anyone else in the household. I get treated more gently, get doors opened for me, things carried for me, and they snuggle on the couch, too. I wouldn't trade it for the world.
Very thought provoking, Sylvia. Thanks for the questions. :D