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18 December 2009 @ 10:08 am
 
Leave me a comment saying "Resistance is Futile."

• I'll respond by asking you five questions so I can satisfy my curiosity.
• Update your journal with the answers to the questions.
• Include this explanation in the post and offer to ask other people questions.

ticklethepear asked GOOD questions!


1. How do you manage to find time for yourself with such an active life and family?

Well, friends, quite simply put, I'm selfish. I say 'no' a lot of different activities when asked. I don't do the whole room mother thing and don't feel compelled to volunteer for things I know I won't enjoy. I have the good fortune to get to pick and choose how I fill my days, and I get to spend time doing pretty much exactly what I want to do. I write and paint and sew and cook, and as a happy coincidence, most of the things I do benefit others, as well. I do manage to take two or three bubble baths a week, and that restores the soul.


2. What is your secret for a happy and healthy marriage?

When I posed the question to hubs, Nolan said separate vacations and my first answer was earplugs, which I think are partial answers to the question. :D We don't take things too seriously, and try to make each other laugh daily. We've also been married for nearly twelve years; the first four or five were admittedly terrible and through all the yuck, we learned how to best deal with the others personalities. I let Nolan rant and he reads my silences, and we find middle ground. You find what your spouse needs most, and you BE that. Nolan's biggest thing is that he wants me to be "on his side" no matter what. So unless it's something I feel something so strongly about that I simply can't agree, I do that. Nolan knows I need security and love, and that's what he gives me - cuddles and hugs and "I love yous" and providing for our family. I guess it's not exactly a secret, but it is a lot of work to make marriage good. Anyone who tells you differently is lying.


3. How do you come up with fresh ideas for d/g fic?

I'm not sure that I do. My mentor professor in college once said that every conceivable plot has already been written and that there are no new ideas under the sun. So that really takes the pressure off. :) I enjoy writing, and I enjoy writing with mynuet's Draco. As long as I'm having fun, that's all I care about.


4. Would you become a professional actress?

I actually am a professional actress. I've been paid several times for my talents, and I'm open to more, but location and family prevent me from going to lots of auditions. Maybe one day I'll get to do more; I haven't lost hope. For now I enjoy what I do get to do, and it's enough of a creative outlet to go with all my other responsibilities.


5. What is the best part of being a mom of boys?

Boys are so easy. I adore my boys. They're just uncomplicated. They can have fun with a rock, a hoop and a stick. They don't need a bunch of stuff, it doesn't take them long to get ready to go places, they bounce back from upsets quickly and I, frankly, am enough girl for any household. I guess the best thing is that I get treated differently than anyone else in the household. I get treated more gently, get doors opened for me, things carried for me, and they snuggle on the couch, too. I wouldn't trade it for the world.

Very thought provoking, Sylvia. Thanks for the questions. :D
 
 
I feel:: artisticartistic
I hear:: Bones
 
 
 
sue_bridehead on December 18th, 2009 06:29 pm (UTC)
Good answers to some very good questions. :) As to your #2 answer:

You find what your spouse needs most, and you BE that. Nolan's biggest thing is that he wants me to be "on his side" no matter what. So unless it's something I feel something so strongly about that I simply can't agree, I do that.

That's exactly what my husband does: "Agree with me! I need affirmation, and lots of it! Hey, you didn't side with me, or if you did, you weren't as enthusiastic as you should have been - don't you love me?" *pout*

If only he could be a little more attentive to what I need...we'd be perfect. (sigh)
Carrie Leighcarrie_leigh on December 19th, 2009 12:39 am (UTC)
I don't strive for perfection. I just want to be happy, you know?
sue_bridehead on December 19th, 2009 12:46 am (UTC)
Yeah, I get ya. ^_^
Elle Blessingway: Brunette Deep Thoughtselle_blessing on December 18th, 2009 07:08 pm (UTC)
1. Resistance is futile XD

2. No, marriage is definitely not easy. It takes work, effort and acted upon intention.

3. I kinda want to have boys, myself :D *hopes*

4. *SMOOSH*
Carrie Leigh: Booth/Colliercarrie_leigh on December 19th, 2009 12:52 am (UTC)
1. What's your favorite story that you've ever written?

2. If you could live anywhere in the world, where would you live and why?

3. What's your favorite sweet?

4. what's your favorite childhood memory?

5. When are you going to start trying for those boys? *wink*
Sylviaticklethepear on December 18th, 2009 07:22 pm (UTC)
:)
seegrim: enchanted eyesseegrim on December 18th, 2009 07:52 pm (UTC)
Aw, good questions, indeed.

Nolan said separate vacations and my first answer was earplugs.

Ha! So true, so true. I know separate vacations has kept Paul alive this year.

I, frankly, am enough girl for any household.

*dies laughing*

Ain't that the truth, sister? :D :D :D


I don't understand the 'Resistance is Futile.' I actually find it quite dorky, but if you'd like to ask me five questions, you're more than welcome to. I can't, however, for the life of me think of anything you could ask me that you don't already know. Good luck. ;)
Mala13oct on December 18th, 2009 08:02 pm (UTC)
'Resistance is Futile' - used by the Borg of the Star Trek. It's one of my most used quotes. Lord I'm such a geek!

Loved the answers Carrie. There are times I wish I had two girls, and there are times I wish I had two boys. LOL and I'm stuck with one of each. :)

seegrimseegrim on December 18th, 2009 08:27 pm (UTC)
Yeah... I got the whole Borg thing; it's just kind of random, you know?
Mala13oct on December 18th, 2009 08:37 pm (UTC)
On that part, I completely agree. Maybe it's was like ok all meme's are made to be succumbed to or something like that.

*headdesk* I said that?! I really should be in bed already. I get loopy and lame when I'm sleepy!
seegrim: i like youseegrim on December 18th, 2009 08:38 pm (UTC)
You're a hoot, Mala. :D
Carrie Leighcarrie_leigh on December 19th, 2009 12:59 am (UTC)
1. What was your earliest childhood memory?

2. Name of your first boyfriend and what attracted you to him?

If you could change one thing about your appearance, what would it be?

3. Who was the last person that hugged you?

4. If you could have a Christmas wish granted, what would it be?

5. What is your favorite class you've ever taken?
Mala13oct on December 18th, 2009 08:03 pm (UTC)
Resistance is Futile. :)
Carrie Leighcarrie_leigh on December 19th, 2009 01:01 am (UTC)
1. Of all the places you've lived (the mind reels) what's been your favorite?

2. What's your biggest pet peeve?

3. Do you have a favorite meal?

4. How many hours of sleep do you need to be happily functioning?

5. Favorite drink?
Lauradream_mancer on December 18th, 2009 08:42 pm (UTC)
Oh hell, I'll bite!

Resistance is Futile.
Carrie Leighcarrie_leigh on December 19th, 2009 01:05 am (UTC)
1. What's your favorite piece of anything that you've ever written?

2. What's the funniest memory you have of 2009?

3. Do you like living in Arkansas?

4. What's the longest vacation you've ever been on?

5. What's your favorite restaurant and why?
Ayla: Christmasabitofayla on December 19th, 2009 06:09 am (UTC)
Resistance is futile... knave
Carrie Leighcarrie_leigh on December 19th, 2009 07:46 pm (UTC)
:D

1. What do you want to do after college?

2. What's the first trait you look for in a man?

3. What's your favorite childhood memory?

4. Do you know any good jokes?

5. If you could live anywhere in the world, where would you go?
goeungurlgoeungurl on December 23rd, 2009 11:04 am (UTC)
1. I love that you are good at saying no and don't volunteer when you don't want to. And I love that you watch out for your soul. Souls definitely need restoring.

2. This was my favorite answer. It was full of wise words and love. You find what your spouse needs most, and you BE that.

3. That's a good way to look at things. I'm always under pressure to be somewhat original... good point. Thanks!

4. And I'm so proud of you. It's hard balancing a professional acting career, kids, life, etc. I hope someday I can see your work.

5. You've just confirmed it. I want all boys. :)
Carrie Leighcarrie_leigh on December 24th, 2009 03:20 am (UTC)
Love you, Diane. :)
goeungurlgoeungurl on December 25th, 2009 02:01 am (UTC)
Love you too. Merry Christmas to you and all your boys. *muah*